Behind the Mother Mask

Ep 16. When Your Kids Get In The Way

Today, I'm back with a solo episode talking about something I find to be SO IMPORTANT. Personally, I feel this deeply but have also found this to be true when working with other Mothers. This episode is about establishing your values and mission to get you back on track, to help keep your focus - it's playing the long game with the life you envision. 
This episode is definitely going to determine my tribe! I feel so strongly about this topic that I will be hosting a FREE WEBINAR on it...
'You are more than a mum! And your kids need to know that!'
How to reclaim your identity with sustained energy and resilience 
My step-by-step pathway for Mums who feel broken and overwhelmed but know deep down they are meant for more
WHEN: Thursday 27th October at 10am via zoom
WHERE: Click the link for more details and to sign up
LINK TO SIGN UP TO MASTERCLASS
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In this episode:
What it means when you feel overwhelmed and craving alone time
Useful question to ask yourself in those moments 
Journal prompt/tool to use when you’re next feeling overwhelmed and craving you own time and space
The important of environment
Why upsetting the normal is sometimes the answer
The importance of your values, identifiying those and sticking to them 
Overwhelm and underwhelm 
Identity who you are as a individual, outside of being a parent 
Where do you place yourself in your life, what’s the order you’re currently living with 
Reframe what balance means in your life
Looking at how societal norms may not be what’s right for your parenting style
Holding the vision for you life
Keeping your Mission as your focal point
Being a cycle breaking parent and changing the future for you children
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I would LOVE to hear from you - please let me know if this episode resonated and your biggest take home. And if you could leave me a rating and review to help spread the word to other Mums about life Behind the Mother Mask, that'd be brilliant!
You can also book a FREE discovery call with me to see how I can best help you to RECLAIM YOUR ENERGY and start feeling like YOU again. Click WEBSITE HERE to book your free call...
And connect with me on social media:
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FACEBOOK HERE
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Remember - Faking it is Fatiguing
See you next week for another episode!

Ep. 15 Parenting the Unconventional Way with Steven Burns

Today's episode is with the awesome Steven Burns, the creator of Mind School. Steven is a coach and trainer in NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) and hypnosis. I met Steven when undergoing my NLP training and he's been an inspiration ever since
Steven teaches people psychological techniques to get the most of out life. He has been doing this work for 23 years and admits he is fascinated with Human Psychology
From personally training with Steve I can tell you he is 'proper passionate' about his work and helping people harness the power of their own minds to reach their full potential.
It was during the NLP Master Practitioner training that Steve that led me through one of the most powerful and healing change techniques I've ever done which we chat about in this episode.
I'm so grateful to Steve for being so open and honest about his slightly different fatherhood path and demonstrating there's no one size fits all when it comes to parenthood
You can connect with Steven through his Website & YouTube:
Steven's Website HERE
Steven's YouTube HERE
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What we discuss in this episode:
Steve talks about his journey with social anxiety, self-doubt & lack of confidence and how he discovered various methods including meditation, self-hypnosis & NLP 
Steve’s overall approach to life is to 'experience as much joy and happiness as possible
He wants people to understand how accessible mind training is to everyone and believes it should be a integral part in all our lives
Steve's shares his unique story of when he discovered he was a father, and how he and his son’s mother manage this from different countries
That strong paternal feeling of connection and needing to be involved in his son’s life
How Steve approaches parenting from a Dad’s perspective, from long distance, and bridging the gap between authority vs. friend as a parent
He discusses 'parental timeline reimprinting - a form of therapy as a life-changing tool 
Steve's thoughts on a conventional vs. unconventional family setup and how this may impact children, including his own son
The mask of perfection and conformity that Steve wore
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I would LOVE to hear from you - please let me know if this episode resonated and your biggest take home. And if you could leave me a rating and review to help spread the word to other Mums about life Behind the Mother Mask, that'd be brilliant!
You can also book a FREE discovery call with me to see how I can best help you to RECLAIM YOUR ENERGY and start feeling like YOU again. Click WEBSITE HERE to book your free call...
And connect with me on social media:
INSTAGRAM HERE
FACEBOOK HERE
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Remember - Faking it is Fatiguing
See you next week for another episode!
 

Ep 14. How to Become Your Child’s Emotional Coach with Fiona Ng

Today I'm back with another guest episode this time with the incredibly insightful Fiona Ng. Fiona is a Parenting Coach with significant hands-on experience of working with parents and families in unique contexts. She has undertaken intensive parent coach training through the Jai Institute of Parenting and also holds qualifications in neuro-linguistics programming (NLP) and is a qualified positive parenting workshop facilitator.
Fiona is also OUR parent coach so I can speak personally and from my own experience when I say she has be hugely influential and pivotal in my life. 
You can connect with Fiona through her Website & Instagram:
Fiona's Website HERE
Fiona's Instagram HERE
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What we discuss in this episode:
Fiona's journey into parent coaching
Fiona’s thoughts on the term ‘Conscious Parenting’
What is Nervous System Regulation/Dysregulation and how to understand your child’s response  
Why looking at our own nervous system is CRUCIAL when it comes to parenting
Self awareness is the first step with nervous system regulation 
The childhood trauma that was passed onto Fiona when she was growing up 
How she started ‘creating patterns’ in her own parenting to begin on this journey 
Her advice to all parents on where to start
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Fiona's Book Recommendations:
The Conscious Parent by Dr Shefali Tsabary
The Awakened Family by Dr Shefali Tsabary
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolt
When the Body Says No by Gabor Maté
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I would LOVE to hear from you - please let me know if this episode resonated and your biggest take home. And if you could leave me a rating and review to help spread the word to other Mums about life Behind the Mother Mask, that'd be brilliant!
You can also book a FREE discovery call with me to see how I can best help you to RECLAIM YOUR ENERGY and start feeling like YOU again. Click WEBSITE HERE to book your free call...
And connect with me on social media:
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FACEBOOK HERE
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Remember - Faking it is Fatiguing
See you next week for another episode!

Ep 13. Living Your Sassiest Sober Life with Sassy Sober Mum, Teri

Today's episode is a conversation around an important topic that is still brushed under the carpet. Some of you may have come across Teri from her Instagram account @sassysobermum, but those of you who have yet to meet her and be inspired by her, I'm delighted to introduce you.
Teri is 44 years old living in Poole, Dorset. She is a married mum of three daughters, working full time in technology, running an instagram support page and podcast for people in sobriety or looking to get sober. And, she's been sober since April 2019.
You can connect with Teri through her Website & Instagram:
Teri's Instagram HERE
Teri's Website HERE
Teri's Podcast HERE
Teri's Free eBook HERE
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What we discuss in this episode:
Teri talks freely about her addiction with alcohol from her early teenage years through into her adult life
The breakdown of her relationship after having two young kids and finding herself at a crossroads, her life-changing overnight and further turning to drinking to 'help her cope'
Being vulnerable is what is connecting her to other people who are feeling similarly and allowing her work to grow and reach more people
Finding healing in sharing her story and vulnerable moments despite them being her deepest darkest moments
Teri shares about trying to understand the root cause of her drinking and the key points from her childhood which influenced this. Why she didn’t love or even like herself!
How she can use reflection from her childhood to influence her parenting for the better
Finding an acceptance towards herself for how she parents her children. There’s no rulebook in parenting and we can’t be perfect all the time but reflecting and talking with them is important. Communication being key between her and her family - Amen Teri! 
'Fun Mum' being the mask she wore and hid behind. Joining the 'Mummy Wine' culture almost gave her permission to justify her drinking
Teri’s mission of trying to break the stigma around drinking. Regardless of how much you drink if it’s used as an escape to cope with life - learning how to feel your feelings instead of dumbing them with a substance
Not getting wrapped up in the shame of who you used to be under the influence...“you were a good person trapped in a bad cycle” 
Her new feeling of gratitude and peace that she now lives with everyday
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Teri's Book Recommendations:
The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober by Catherine Gray
The Easy Way to Stop Drinking for Women by Allen Carr
This Naked Mind by Annie Grace
Quit Like A Woman by Holly Whitaker
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I would LOVE to hear from you - please let me know if this episode resonated and your biggest take home. And if you could leave me a rating and review to help spread the word to other Mums about life Behind the Mother Mask, that'd be brilliant!
You can also book a FREE discovery call with me to see how I can best help you to RECLAIM YOUR ENERGY and start feeling like YOU again. Click WEBSITE HERE to book your free call...
And connect with me on social media:
INSTAGRAM HERE
FACEBOOK HERE
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Remember - Faking it is Fatiguing
See you next week for another episode!

Ep 12. From Frazzled and Surviving to Calm and Thriving with Sarah Travis

Sarah Travis was a client of mine who I had the joy of working with 1-2-1 back in 2020. Today she shares her journey from feeling frazzled, anxious and surviving, to living life from a place of calm through the lens of joy.
Wife and mama to 2 little ones, Sarah is committed to trying to live life in a less ordinary way. Passionate about parenting, child development and self-actualization she is on a journey of growth and understanding catalysed by the birth of her son. On a personal mission to challenge mainstream narratives around what it means to be successful and live well, Sarah is learning to prioritise joy and gratitude for the everyday moments in life.
What we discuss in this episode:
Sarah's approach to life and motherhood
Sarah shares how she was feeling back in 2020 - Frazzled, anxious, and feeling controlled by her environment
We talk about deep-rooted people pleasing and how Sarah tried to please and give to others at the expense of her own peace and energy. 
Sarah shares how she was very career-focused prior to motherhood and how finding the balance between motherhood and her work left no time for her
Sarah talks about how she felt like she had to prove herself and her belief - because she was a mum she wasn't a good employee.
We talk about the wider impact of Sarah's 'busy mum' lifestyle on her parenting and relationships. 
Sarah shares her turning point - when and why things had to change 
Sarah's biggest learnings/lightbulb moments that gave the biggest personal shifts
Sarah shares how she has transformed her perspective on life
 
The power in the little changes and some practical tips for you to try
 
How Sarah Let go of her busy mum lifestyle and the need for the approval of others
 
How you can’t supplement your way out of an identity crisis - which I love!
The values/beliefs Sarah wants to instil in her children
Why Sarah thinks so many mums suffer in silence? And her advice knowing what she knows now?
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I would LOVE to hear from you - please let me know if this episode resonated and your biggest take home. And if you could leave me a rating and review to help spread the word to other Mums about life Behind the Mother Mask, that'd be brilliant!
 
You can also book a FREE discovery call with me to see how I can best help you to RECLAIM YOUR ENERGY and start feeling like YOU again. Click WEBSITE HERE to book your free call...
And connect with me on social media:
INSTAGRAM HERE
FACEBOOK HERE
 
Remember - Faking it is Fatiguing
See you next week for another episode!

Ep 11. Getting Through Difficult Times

Today’s episode is a solo episode…with a twist. I’ve brought in my incredible friend Nic Greenock to ask me questions about getting through some challenging times in my life.
And as always I feel like I bring my whole life story to the party! (Nic does a great job at keeping me on track). What can I say, there's a lot of difficult times to choose from (no sympathy needed). But today I focus on one significant challenging period of my life - my transition into Motherhood, which presented one of the most difficult times in my life AND which also became my awakening.
 
I think reflection is such a powerful resource. I know when you're 'in it' it can feel all-consuming and overwhelming. It's easy to get stuck in the problem. But what I also know is often your magic is on your mess
 
In this episode, I'm doing my best to be open and honest and bring you 5/6 of my most valuable life lessons to date when it comes to navigating difficult times. With the hope, it will offer you a fresh perspective when it comes to responding to both life's daily challenges and the unexpected curve balls.
 
In this episode we discuss:
 
➡️ One of the most difficult times in my life
➡️ What I uncovered and learned about myself
➡️ The big life-changing turning point
➡️ How this changed me and my perspective on life
➡️ My 5/6 biggest learnings to date
➡️ How this helped me evolve as a person as well as change my approach to future challenges
I would LOVE to hear from you - please let me know if this episode resonated and your biggest take home. And if you could leave me a rating and review to help spread the word to other Mums about life Behind the Mother Mask, that'd be brilliant!
You can also book a FREE discovery call with me to see how I can best help you to RECLAIM YOUR ENERGY and start feeling like YOU again. Click WEBSITE HERE to book your free call...
And connect with me on social media:
INSTAGRAM HERE
FACEBOOK HERE
 
Nic can be found on the socials, do go give her a follow…
Nic's Facebook HERE 
Nic's Instagram HERE
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Remember - Faking it is Fatiguing
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Ep 10. How to Help You Help Your Teenager with Brian Costello

Brian Costello, NLP Practitioner and founder of headstrong minds - home of one of Scotland’s leading and most inspiring teams of mental health and change professionals
Brian started his Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) training and experience while working for one of UK’s biggest Wealth Management companies – a firm staging ground for practising many of the techniques both in a personal and business context.
Brian’s dedication to NLP helped him build HeadStrong almost completely on word of mouth. His ability to spot the right intervention at the right time and explain NLP in a way that makes total sense has helped him become one of Scotland’s most respected NLPers. He is also a specialist in utilising NLP to deal with depression and anxiety issues.
HeadStrong’s immensely popular weekend workshops such as The BreakThrough Weekend have been delivered as far a field as the Channel Islands and continue to pack out venues whenever they are held.
“We are experts in changing the way people think. It is a simple fact that if you can change the way you think then you WILL change the way you feel and if you change the way you feel you will act and behave differently in everything you do.”
You can connect with Brian through his website & social media:
Brian's Website HERE
Brian's Instagram HERE
Brain's Facebook HERE 
Video Link - Putting Yourself First HERE
Books by Brian:
Breakthrough: A Blueprint for Your Mind 
Cracking the Teen Code: How to Find Calm in the Chaos
 
What we discuss in this episode:
How Brian became aware of NLP
Brian's company HeadStrong & the work they do
His own experience with mental health
His work with teenagers & schools spreading the word about mental health and NLP
What are the commonalities he sees with young people
Brian's experience of the effect of technology and social media on teenagers today 
Establishing a solid foundation between Parents & Children
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I would LOVE to hear from you - please let me know if this episode resonated and your biggest take home. And if you could leave me a rating and review to help spread the word to other Mums about life Behind the Mother Mask, that'd be brilliant!
You can also book a FREE discovery call with me to see how I can best help you to RECLAIM YOUR ENERGY and start feeling like YOU again. Click WEBSITE HERE to book your free call...
And connect with me on social media:
INSTAGRAM HERE
FACEBOOK HERE
 
Remember - Faking it is Fatiguing
See you next week for another episode!
 

Ep 9. Finding Freedom after Childhood Abuse with Gwen Warren

My guest today is the ever-inspiring Gwen Warren. Prepare to be emotionally moved by her story (I know I was), and yes it is a heavy topic so this may be a trigger for some, but I hope as you listen you will feel a sense of peace and be uplifted by Gwen’s incredible wisdom!
Previously a Programme Manager and Leadership Coach for Senior Managers, Gwen qualified as a Nutritionist and Fitness Instructor in 2006 and set up Business Fit Ltd her nutrition, fitness and wellbeing business. In 2015 she launched GW Business Fit Ltd and has since helped thousands of NTs and health coaches to start and grow their practice whilst helping them shine out of their comfort zones, conquer their fears and create simple but profitable businesses and practices that they love, on their own terms. 
In 2021 she then plucked up the courage to launch GW Property Fit Ltd, a property investment business which has helped support her “freedom” vision, values and lifestyle . Gwen lectures student practitioners in the business modules on the ION Diploma and BSc, the Worcester MSc, CNELM, and regularly delivers free business trainings for practitioners in partnership with other professional bodies including BANT, the NANP, The Institute of Health Sciences and the NNA. 
She is a recreational athlete, competitive cyclist and single mum to two mini adult humans in Hertfordshire. 
Gwen’s work and lifestyle is based on her philosophy that everyone has the right to a joyful, vibrant and fulfilling life. All her work centres around her belief that everyone should love who they are, love what they do and do what they love. 
 
You can connect with her through her website & social media:
Gwen's Website HERE
Gwen's Instagram HERE
 
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Abuse Helpline
Refuge 24-hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline (UK)
0808 2000 247
 
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What we discuss in this episode:
Gwen’s 21 year experience with abuse 
The coping mechanisms she used
What was the Mask she wore
What were the turning points
Gwen’s GIFT of tapping into out-of-body experiences
Healing Generational Trauma
Letting go of fear
Gwen’s wisdom & advice for others
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I would LOVE to hear from you - please let me know if this episode resonated and your biggest takehome. And if you could leave me a rating and review to help spread the word to other Mums about life Behind the Mother Mask, that'd be brilliant!
You can also book a FREE discovery call with me to see how I can best help you to RECLAIM YOUR ENERGY and start feeling like YOU again. Click WEBSITE HERE to book your free call...
And connect with me on social media:
INSTAGRAM HERE
FACEBOOK HERE
 
Remember - Faking it is Fatiguing
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Ep 8. Getting to The Root Cause of PMDD with Natalie Ryan Hebert

Today, I have the absolute honour of chatting to Natalie Ryan Hebert.
Natalie is the founder of The Red Tent Program for PMDD (Premenstrual dysphoric disorder). She has helped hundreds of people all over the world to heal deep trauma, find freedom from limiting, negative belief patterns and step into their authentic selves to live the life they really deserve through her unique protocol which combines Rapid Transformational Therapy, Hypnotherapy and Metacognitive Psychology. She has combined all her professional and personal skills, knowledge and wisdom from her own personal journey of overcoming PMDD to create her programme – "I have poured myself into it and it is my honour, purpose and privilege to do this important work".Natalie is also mum to four amazing kids who are 7, 8 16 and 20 years old. She is originally from Australia and now lives in Copenhagen with her Danish husband who works as a paediatrician.
 
You can connect with her through her website & social media:
Natalie's Instagram HERE
Natalie's Facebook HERE
Natalie's Website HERE 
Natalie's LinkTree HERE
Natalie's Red Tent Programme HERE
Free ebook download - Inspirational Stories from 'The Red Tent' HERE
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Other links mentioned in the episode:
Personality Test
Podcast Interviews POD1 & POD2
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What we discuss in this episode:
Natalie’s personal story with PMDD
What the ‘turning point’ was for her
How does she work with clients to overcome PMDD
Rapid Transformation Therapy
The underlying cause of PMDD
What is trauma & how does it connect to PMDD
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I would LOVE to hear from you - please let me know if this episode resonated and your biggest takehome. And if you could leave me a rating and review to help spread the word to other Mums about life Behind the Mother Mask, that'd be brilliant!
You can also book a FREE discovery call with me to see how I can best help you to RECLAIM YOUR ENERGY and start feeling like YOU again. Click WEBSITE HERE to book your free call...
And connect with me on social media:
INSTAGRAM HERE
FACEBOOK HERE
 
Remember - Faking it is Fatiguing
See you next week for another episode!

Ep 7. Breaking The Pattern of Feeling Like Sh*t by Shifting Your Focus

Today, I’m back with a follow-up episode to last week's 'Showing Up When You Feel Like Sh*t'. Reflection really is your best friend, so here I am reflecting on last week and explaining the why behind it.
Last episode I spoke from an honest place talking all about my PMDD & ADHD. Whether you resonate with those conditions or not, today's practical exercise will help you shift your focus towards what you want and help break the pattern of feeling stuck in your 'problem'! Have your pen & paper at the ready for some life-changing journal prompts - they're seriously good! I hope today inspires & uplifts you with these actionable takeaways.
In this episode:
What I learned from last week
What is pretty constant in most physical symptoms in ADHD & PMDD
Start with understating the needs of YOUR body
Creating change and testing it 
The power of our thoughts
The Wheel of Motherhood & journal prompts
Step by step guide to creating YOUR VISION
 
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I would LOVE to hear from you - please let me know if this episode resonated and your biggest takehome. And if you could leave me a rating and review to help spread the word to other Mums about life Behind the Mother Mask, that'd be brilliant!
You can also book a FREE discovery call with me to see how I can best help you to RECLAIM YOUR ENERGY and start feeling like YOU again. Click WEBSITE HERE to book your free call...
And connect with me on social media:
INSTAGRAM HERE
FACEBOOK HERE
 
Remember - Faking it is Fatiguing
See you next week for another episode!